Lots of reasons! To name some:

1. Matchmakers get a ton of information about each person so they can effectively match people based on a wide variety of dimensions, increasing your chance of a compatible match that will last.
2. Matchmakers can vet the candidates to make sure they look like their photos.
3. Matchmakers generally work with successful professionals. If you're meeting a client, you know they're a driven, self-sufficient individual ready for commitment with the right partner.
4. Your profile remains private, visible only to the matchmakers. This means you can be really open and honest about what you really think and do - and so would others.
5. Matchmakers can work well with people who are open to areas outside of their own city.
6. When hiring a matchmaker, you can learn what someone really thinks about you after a first date. There would be no misreading signals and you have the ability to be conscious of their feedback - and save you more time in next steps.

1. Traditional matchmaking companies lock you into hefty upfront fees, whereas with us you pay as you go based on who you want to meet and who also wants to meet you. There's total flexibility with when you want to stop.

3. We offer ID verification through optional background checks, ID checks, and even video clips so you can get a "vibe check" and see what the person looks like outside of their photos.

4. We don't hold to any quotas that can lead to poor quality pairings and pressure and disappointment on both sides.

5. We also have an entire network of matchmaking companies subscribing to our platform, and an extremely strong network of partners,  which expands your match possibilities beyond what any one company can do.

1. Dating sites don't have an important personal touch where someone gets a human understanding of both people and uses their experience and intuition in addition to data.
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2. We collect way more info about people, allowing for you to see if there's a long term fit much faster than meeting people through any other avenue.
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3. The apps also want to provide you with as many matches as possible to satiate the never-ending appetite of most users. With matchmaking, it's about disrupting that mentality by focusing on lower quantity and higher quality to give each person a real shot.
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4. If you think you're seeing everyone online, you're not. Many people don't do online dating - or aren't on the apps when you are.

5. We offer ID verification through optional background checks, ID checks, and even video clips.

DateSpot's pricing is extremely unique in the industry. Matchmakers charge a large sum upfront, which doesn't offer much flexibility and involves a lot of trust and risk in the investment. Our pricing allows you to give matchmaking a try without the risk.

A 45 minute video call consultation for $299 is the first step to becoming a client. At the end of the call we can discuss whether it's a good fit to work together in a dedicated capacity.

If we take you on as a client, we have at least 10 potentials who are already members identified as solid prospects to explore further. As an optional add-on, you are welcome to purchase an initial list of 10-15 members, called Match Previews. This list is great because a) you get a higher level of confidentiality since you see the people first, b) it allows us to get your feedback right away, c) you get more visibility into who we're considering for you, and d) it provides more options earlier in the process. Match Previews are $499 and about 75% of our clients choose to have them.

Introductions are $899 each. You are never automatically charged, and you only pay once we recommend someone and both people are interested in meeting. We believe this model is fair and there is great demand for our more flexible model compared to other matchmakers.

There are a few optional add-ons available for either party in a match, regardless of their membership tier:
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-- Background check — $100
We review and flag anything notable and get back to you within one business day

-- Video clip — $50 or free if you upload your own
A brief intro from the match so you can get a “vibe check”

-- ID check — $25
Verifies age, photo, and location from a driver’s license or passport

Our pricing is the most affordable and flexible you'll find in the industry for the personalized level of service provided. Should pricing change within your proactive search period, you are locked in for that "legacy" rate through the the remainder of the contract.

The fourth month proactive search focuses on a different initiative each month. We move to the next stage if you're not with someone exclusively then.

MONTH 1: Focus on your most specific search criteria.
MONTH 2: Expanded search parameters, still within any strict criteria.
MONTH 3: Partner outreach. We contact a private industry group first, and if that doesn't lead to desired results, then we email specific matchmaking companies that are most appropriate for your search.
MONTH 4: Recruiting on LinkedIn and/or Facebook for people who may be potentials for you in your geographic area. There's the potential to get more targeted (types of occupations, for example) but not guaranteed.

We like to check in after each month to report on the search and how to iterate from there if needed.

First we do a video consultation. If approved as a client, within a few business days of that call we'll send your sharable profile, which you approve. We then begin outreach. We do two major rounds of searches, starting with the top candidates in the first month and other candidates the second month.

There is no set timeline on when you receive your first Recommended Date (person ready to meet you) as each person's search is so unique, and we don't know who will say yes to your profile. But generally, we present an initial Recommended Date within one month.

Each month of the four month timeframe we have specific activities and we aim to check in at the end of each month to kick off the next round of searching.

If you choose to do Match Previews, you'll generally get a Recommended Date within a couple of weeks. If you skip Match Previews, we'll reach out to potentials generally one by one, so it usually takes longer.

Yes, you can pause or freeze your contract for up to two months. This pushes out your end date of the proactive search timeframe up to a full six months.

The pause may be for any reason - typically it's because you entered into an exclusive relationship, though it could be that you just have less time and want to focus on one person, or you are traveling for more than one week, or you're just not into dating at the moment. You do not need to give a reason, but it can be helpful to your matchmaker to know why.

To pause, please email support@datespot.love. If you want to resume at any point, let us know via email. We will resume on the day you request it, up to two months further than your original contract end date, even if we respond later than the original request date.

We do not necessarily notify you when your pause is over - it is up to you to ask or mark down when this is. We do, however, try to notify all Clients when their proactive search period is over.

Unlike traditional matchmaking companies, which often limit you to their specific location, DateSpot works with clients all across the U.S. through our nationwide network of partner matchmaking companies, so geography is rarely a limitation.

We accept clients living internationally if you already split your time between the U.S. and another country, or you are very willing to relocate to the U.S.. In addition, we still must have identified at least 10 potential matches based on our basic criteria—typically age, height, ethnicity, religion, political views, and use of drugs or cigarettes (criteria may vary depending on the search).

Feel free to email support@datespot.love for a recommendation to another matchmaking company if you want proactive dedicated service outside the U.S. and do not meet those requirements.

As a member, some of our partner matchmakers are based abroad and may request you for their clients, so even if you're not a Client you may receive a potential match at some point.

Due to effective recruiting, referrals from other matchmakers, and our unique pricing model that attracts people searching online for affordable services, we have over five thousand members in our database alone. In addition, our strong collaborative partnerships expand our reach to an estimated 1.5 million people and growing!

With DateSpot, you're not limited to just one company's pool of potentials. If we have exhausted the options in our own network, we ask other matchmaking companies who they have. We are members of The Matchmakers Alliance, and have solid relationships with hundreds of matchmaking companies even outside that alliance.

There is no need to pay anything extra to collaborate - we give them a portion of your match fee as an incentive. You're accessing match options from them for less than if you were their client directly. In effect, we get back-door access to matches at companies where you wouldn't want to pay their high upfront fees.

We do not include background checks with the regular match fee in order to keep costs as low as possible for people, since many people do not require a background check. However, we do offer background checks as an add-on service.

When there's mutual interest in meeting, you can opt for a check we do through BeenVerified for $100. We review the results, which cover criminal history, bankruptcies, career history, social media, and more. You can pay for the check before you make a final decision about meeting the person.

As people generally do not want to share their social security numbers, we do checks without them. This means that we can generally hone in on the right person but cannot guarantee it if it's a common name. There is no refund of the fee as searching for the person still requires a lot of our time. But in most cases we will identify the one individual.

We do not share the report to maintain confidentiality that most people prefer when matchmaking for safety and privacy. Once you've paid for a background check, we will report back with our findings within two business days.

The information contained in any report and what we relay necessarily 100% accurate, complete or up to date, especially concerning such sensitive items as criminal history, relatives, mortgages and liens. The data comes from a wide variety of sources through BeenVerified, but some municipalities and jurisdictions are slow to report and digitize their data.

With DateSpot member-to-member matching, no. Physical attraction is an important part of a relationship and we believe there needs to be a baseline for a relationship to get off the ground. We send Recommended Dates to our members that include a ton of info about the potential match as well as multiple photos. And we're always working to ensure the photos are recent!

That said, many of our partner matchmaking companies do blind dates - either always or sometimes based on the client's preference or package. If you're trying to get the most amount of match options, we suggest selecting that you're open to blind dates. If you prefer blind dates, let us know and we can prioritize those connections.

If we're reaching out about a particular match opportunity with a partner's client, we like to disclose whether it would be a blind date as we want to set expectations correctly. You're always able to say yes or no, or ask us if we don't mention it.

Throughout her matchmaking career, DateSpot's founder has successfully matched up dozens of couples who have gotten married or found a partner that fulfills them. Some people contacted her years later thanking her for her efforts and the impact she has had in their lives.

Some couples who met through DateSpot are already married, and there are now DateSpot babies from multiple families! Our founder was thrilled to even officiate a wedding for one of these couples in 2022 in Northern CA.

On top of our known success stories, we also have a very strong date satisfaction rate. 83% of members who go on a first date with another member want to continue seeing them.

We hope you'll be our next success story and invite us to your wedding!

While we're based in the U.S. and the vast majority of our members are there, our members are global. They span a wide range in demographics, including age, ethnicity, religion, and lifestyle.

Our youngest members are 18 and there is no cap on the upper limit. Our youngest Client so far has been 21 and oldest has been 92 - quite a range!

The gender ratio across our database is about evenly split between men and women (and we do offer an option to say whether your gender identify doesn't fit into one of those options).

Inclusion is one of our core values. We allow everyone to join the database, and we think there is a “lid for every pot.”

The only exceptions for who we would never match would be people in a relationship seeking infidelity (where the other person believes the relationship is monogamous), men seeking polygamy (multiple wives), or anyone who violates our code of conduct or disrespects people.

Yes, definitely! We have many LGBTQ+ members. We actually get a lot of referrals of people in the community from other matchmakers who do not service them due to a lack of appropriate candidates in their own networks.

Also, our partnerships with LGBTQ+ focused matchmaking companies allows us to match gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, and other individuals in a unique way - without paying the large amounts needed to work with them as a client. If you end up wanting more match options than what we deliver, we can refer you to a more specialized company that we recommend.

We also are conscious of non-binary gender options and don't force people to choose the traditional "male" or "female" options. This also makes matching through us easier than with traditional matchmaking companies.

Many people into ENM (ethical non-monogamy or polyamory as a variation) request matchmaking services as the options for them are limited and they may prefer privacy over being "out there" on the few apps there are. Some people want relationships that are "monogamish", where there is a primary partner desired but there is the mutual ability to have experiences with others.

If you're into ethnical non-monogamy or considering it, as long as you are interested in equal, honest, open, and loving relationships with more long-term partners rather than just random hook-ups with different people, we are happy to accept and match you. We have a solid community and strong partners who specialize in this and can leverage them for matches at a less expensive rate than if you were a client of theirs directly. Visit our ENM matchmaking page.

We sometimes meet them, but we always verify them in some way. With DateSpot client-to-client matching, both people have been met through the Deep-Dive Video Call. With client-to-candidate matching, we do an ID verification check if you're interested in meeting them. Should you require a meeting with the member, we can accommodate a 15 min. video call.

We also request video clips from everyone - though not required. When someone has uploaded a video we can share it if you have uploaded your own or you can pay $49 to view it. This video gives you a much better personal sense about them - you assessing directly in addition to us.

When we send any profile to you, we include whether we have met the match already. If we have not, you can let us know if you want us to do a video call in order to make a decision.

As for any intros with partner matchmaker clients, we do not meet them as those clients have already gone through extensive vetting by the matchmaker, and the clients don't want to have to talk to other services beyond their own. If we're considering a partner's non-client for you, we would get them into our database to collect all the standard information and number of photos. So while they're non-paying, the benefit is typically getting more information and more recent information about those members. Both options can work very well.

We take your privacy very seriously.

Only the DateSpot team and our partner matchmakers can see your account. That should put you at ease that you don't have to craft witty responses, and you can be completely honest.

Not just anyone can access the database. Our partner matchmakers in the DateSpot network have been rigorously screened to ensure they are reputable professionals in the industry.

Members cannot view each other's accounts. Instead, we write individual profiles in a Google doc, merging info from your account, any emails, a consultation if applicable, and our own impressions of the person. By default, the Google doc is open to anyone who has the link, because we only share it selectively. If you choose to have it set privately to only those with specific access, we can accommodate that.

Also, if you prefer total privacy without photos of yourself shown to other members, we can arrange blind dates with other members and partner clients who are open to blind dates.

We do not share or sell your information to any marketing lists.

If you choose to purchase a partner service (photo shoot, styling, or relationship advising), we may pass along some info and/or photos to facilitate and get you the best results.

Please contact support@datespot.love if you have any questions or concerns about privacy.

If you're in an exclusive relationship but not yet engaged or married, it's a better option to pause your account so that we can check in about your status in the future if there's an identified match. To do this, log in, and in the first profile field you can edit (under DateSpot History) change Account Status from "Active" to "Paused".

But if you're married, engaged, or otherwise never want to hear from us again, you can deactivate your account by going to Settings > Deactivate My Profile. If you want to permanently delete your account so that you can never log back in, you can request deletion by changing your profile Account Status to "Delete" and we'll delete your account ASAP. Alternatively, you can send the request to support@datespot.love.
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Know that if you cancel, we won’t be contacting any matchmaking companies that have already paid to connect with you and so have your email and account info. You would have known and approved any of these and received intros to them, so you'll know who to contact if you want them to remove you there as well.

We hope that eventually you deactivate your account because you're successfully matched up!

Yes, we do! If you're not ready for dedicated matchmaking, you're welcome to join our passive free pool of Candidates. That makes you eligible for the occasional match as we search for our Clients. There is no cost, ever.

However, know that it is rare that we contact Candidates due to the massive number of members, our focus on Clients, and how matchmakers and members alike typically want matches to have some "skin in the game" to demonstrate both financial fitness and some level of commitment.

We also want to make it clear that if you join the free route we generally do NOT proactively review your account to assess a fit as we're focused on our clients. We just contact you when there's a potential match, which may take months, years, or be never.

And while we aim for alignment of preferences as much as possible, it's an important distinction that we're more focused on the wants and needs of our clients. In a Client-to-Candidate pairing, our Client's preferences take precedence over yours. Everyone's search is a little aspirational, so you might be "the catch" more for them.

Feel free to view the comparison chart on the Member Selection page.

You're very kind! Yes, we absolutely do gift memberships for your friend, sibling or parent. You would pay for their consultation fee. If their is mutual interest in meeting, you can choose to either pay for each mutual match for them for as long as both of you desired, or have them take the cost from there. The pricing is the same - $299 fee for the video call and then $899 per approved match.

Learn more here. Thank you from both us and them!