1. Matchmakers get a ton of information about each person so they can effectively match people based on a wide variety of dimensions, increasing your chance of a compatible match.
2. Matchmakers work with clients who are typically successful professionals, so you know you're meeting a driven, self-sufficient individual.
3. Your profile remains private, visible only to the professionals.
4. Matchmakers can work well with people who are open to areas outside of their own city.
Dating sites don't have an important personal touch where someone gets a human understanding of both people. The apps also want to provide you with as many matches as possible to satiate the never-ending appetite of most users. With matchmaking, it's about disrupting that mentality by focusing on lower quantity and higher quality.
The free route allows you to match with people who pay for matchmaking or pay for a connection to you only. The Premium route allows us to proactively focus on your search, and match to anyone - they don't need to pay ever.
For free route members, the timeframe is completely open. We don’t guarantee a specific time in which you will be contacted. It is completely determined by the need of each specific matchmaker and their current clients.
For Premium members, we like to get back to you within 2 months to discuss the search if we haven't already presented a Recommended Date.
We have simple expectations of you:
- Treat matchmakers and their clients with respect at all times.
- Upload accurate information and photos of yourself.
- Follow through with integrity. If you say you will meet a matchmaker’s client, don’t change your mind unless there is a very good reason.
- If you go out with a client and a matchmaker requested feedback, provide that feedback as an important part of the iterative matchmaking process. They can shed light on whether a second date makes sense. If it turns out to be a great connection, they will better understand why. If it’s not a lasting connection, the info can be used to better match both the client and you in the future.
- Please keep all information about members, clients and matchmakers confidential. This is a special platform where everyone’s privacy is respected.
With DateSpot member to member matching, no. Physical attraction is an important part of a relationship and we believe there needs to be some baseline for a relationship to get off the ground.
We send Recommended Dates to our Premium and free route members that include a ton of info about the potential match as well as multiple photos. We try to ensure that people look like their photos through a video call or verification photo.
That said, many matchmaking companies do blind dates. They CAN work, especially in certain cases. As many of our partners do blind dates as their standard practice, it could be presented as an option. We also ask the question of whether you're open to blind dates, so you can exclude them altogether if desired. When we reach out about a particular match opportunity, we like to disclose whether it would be a blind date or not. You're always able to say yes or no.
It’s tricky for us to calculate success rate because we partner with so many different sites and apps. Plus, success comes in different forms, from becoming a better dater to understanding yourself more through date feedback to entering a relationship to getting married.
We can say that our founder has successfully matched up dozens of couples who have gotten married or stayed together after one year. She's even officiated a wedding for one of them.
We hope you'll be our next success story and invite our founder to the wedding!
While we're based in the U.S. and the vast majority of our members are there, our members are global. They span a wide range in demographics, including age, ethnicity, religion, and lifestyle. The gender ratio is about evenly split between men and women (and we do offer an option to say whether your gender identify doesn't fit into one of those options).
Inclusion is one of our core values. We allow everyone to join, and we think there is a “lid for every pot.” We also strive to provide options for each person specific to their preferences and situation.
The only exceptions for who we would never match would be people in a relationship seeking infidelity, or anyone who violates our code of conduct or disrespects people.
It's rare that a client in the matchmaking space is polyamorous (into ethical non-monogamy), but it does occasionally happen. We understand that people in these relationships are very honest and there is an understood equity about being open across the parties involved. We also know that many people are wanting relationships that are "monogamish", where there is a primary partner desired but there is the mutual ability to have experiences with others.
If you're into ethnical non-monogamy or considering it, we are happy to consult with you about your unique experience and goals and recommend customized solutions to help you find love.
Yes, definitely! We have many LGBTQ+ members in the database. Beyond that, our partnerships with LGBTQ+ focused matchmaking companies allows us to match gay, lesbian, bisexual and other individuals in a unique way.
Remember, if we don't have appropriate matches for you, or matches that you're excited about, you don't pay anything. If you join as a Premium member and want more match options than what we deliver, we can refer you to a more specialized company that we recommend.
If you're in an exclusive relationship but not yet engaged or married, it's a better option to change your relationship status in your Account Settings to allow us to check in about your status in the future if there's an identified match.
But if you're married, engaged, or otherwise know you want to never hear from us again, you can cancel your membership at any point. To cancel, log into your account > Account Settings > Account Status > change to "Inactive". Alternatively, you can send the request to firstname.lastname@example.org.
We fully respect your privacy, we will not pass along your information to anyone else.
Know that if you cancel, we won’t be contacting any matchmaking companies that have already paid to connect with you and thus gained access to your email and account info. You would have known and approved any of these and received intros to them, so you'll know who to contact if you want them to remove you there as well.
We hope that eventually you will cancel your account because you're successfully matched up!
That is so kind of you to think about it! Absolutely. You want to see your child, sibling or parent matched up - we get it.
We offer a package of three mutual matches at a $300 discount, so just $1500. If one of their first two matches works out, or we don't get the full number of mutual matches, they can convert the remaining funds towards any of our partner services - a photo shoot, image consulting, or relationship advising for their (hopefully) new relationship. Buy a package here. Thank you from both us and them!