Inside DateSpot Matchmaking

Discover how we work, meet the matchmaker behind the introductions, and see why our process succeeds where the apps fail.

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PROCESS

How Does It Work?

Create Your Account

Complete a fun questionnaire so we can understand your background, lifestyle, and preferences. This helps us identify compatibility among our members. No need to “sell yourself,” as your profile is reviewed and represented by a matchmaker who highlights your strengths when presenting you to others.

Get Your Match Review

Once your account is complete, a matchmaker reviews it to assess your match potential within our network. You’ll receive a personalized overview of your opportunities, including any free matches with Clients. If you're interested in paid matches, we'll invite you to book a Match Strategy Call.

Choose Your Matches

You choose who you’d like to meet, notifying only the matchmaker. We facilitate introductions when there is mutual interest.

Meet & Share Feedback

Connect via video or in person once there is mutual interest. We can assist with coordination if desired so things feel seamless. After your date, share feedback via a quick form so we can refine and improve future matches if needed. We also share relevant feedback from your date to create clarity.

Matchmaking Benefits

WHY WE'RE BETTER THAN THE APPS

Common Goal

Clients are are ready for more than endless profile swiping

Extensive Data

To assess compatibility better than any other method

Privacy

Your profile is selectively shared to prospects; singles can't search for it

Accuracy

People are more truthful because the info remains private

Time Saving

No fake profiles, back-and-forth messaging, or "ghosting"

Feedback

Receive valuable insights after first dates for clarity & potential self-growth

The Member Experience

What's Included

Initial Match Review, Including Photos
Eligible For Curated Introductions
Access To Matches with Partner Clients
Optional Background Checks
Video in Profiles By Request
Clarity of Interest After First Dates

Some members choose to expand their search with more proactive support, where we pursue additional match opportunities on their behalf.

Who Is Matching Me?

Your match review is performed by Carla Guarnay, founder of DateSpot and a Silicon Valley-based matchmaker with over 12 years of experience (since 2014). She is a wife, mom, and tennis and pickleball lover.

She personally oversees your initial evaluation and ensures your profile is reviewed within the DateSpot network for high-quality match opportunities. Unlike traditional services that separate sales people from matchmakers, your review and matching process are handled directly through Carla, so your guidance stays consistent from start to finish.

Specific Matchmaking Types

We effectively work with many different types of individuals. Unlike traditional matchmaking companies that focus on exclusivity and elitism, we're an inclusive program.

Here are examples of the groups we service:

Christian singles
Jewish singles
Muslim singles
LDS singles
Spiritual singles
LGBTQ+ singles
U.S. singles
Intl. dating
Interracial dating
Black singles
Indian singles
Latin singles
Asian singles
Divorced singles
50+ senior singles
Young singles
Monogamous dating
Poly/ENM dating
Affluent singles
Cross-city dating
Discreet dating
Widowed singles
Healthy/fit singles
Remote workers
Single parents
Singles wanting kids
Child-free singles
Highly selective

How We Match Members

We are extremely thoughtful and efficient about how we match people, combining profile data, compatibility research, advanced tech, and personal intuition.

We know that most successful partnerships are within 15 years and use that as a max range. We also think your match should balance you in personality and energy.

Here is a partial list of what we take into account and can filter by:

Relocation
People who are open to moving to you anytime or eventually.
Education
Similar levels are common in couples, but we ask how important it is to you.
Drinking habits
Drinking “socially” is too general. We break it down into five dimensions.
Drug habits
Frequency of use & what you’re open to in a partner, even by type.
Smoking habits
How often you smoke cigarettes and what you're open to in a partner.
Fitness level
How frequently someone works out to help determine lifestyle alignment.
Pets
Whether someone has a dog and/or cat and how they feel about them.
Eating habits
Whether you eat everything, are health-conscious, a vegetarian, etc.
Personality
Traits like intellectually curious, kind, growth-oriented, athletic, adventurous, etc.
Values
What do you prioritize in your life - independence, family time, ambition, etc.
Interests
There should be some overlap, and we can filter for any hobbies you love.
Religious views
How do you identify, how do you practice, and how important is alignment?
Political affiliation
What you identify with politically and importance of alignment
Love languages
Which of the 5 Love Languages do you give and want to receive most.
Family
Family-oriented, close with their birth family, froze their eggs, etc.

Wedding Memories

datespot's founder, carla, officiating a wedding on a field while looking at both partners, as they hold hands

Carla, DateSpot's Founder, officiating a wedding in 2022 for a couple in San Francisco matched by DateSpot.

Testimonials

“What a wonderful experience it is to work with Carla. Her approach to matchmaking is like a breath of fresh air. She is very well researched, and her questions require deep reflection. She does an enormous amount of homework before presenting a candidate to you. You'll see Carla goes above and beyond to prepare you and your match before a meeting. Highly recommended!”

A.R.

Los Angeles, CA

"DateSpot is easy & effective! Brilliant business model, and it really works - my first date turned out to be a way better match than Bumble or Hinge delivered in more than two years of online dating. And we're now married!"

B.R.

San Francisco, CA

"I’ve been so impressed with Carla, her team and approach. I’d recommend DateSpot to all my single friends, male and female, who are looking for a new way to meet eligible matches. Carla has developed a cool new dating 'mousetrap'!"

T.B.

Denver, CO

"Carla reached out with a list of amazing women -- some I'd pay to see and some would pay to meet someone like me. I especially liked one of the women, we were introduced and hit it off. One of the most promising matches from a dating service I've had. Planning like date 6 right now. The paying per match model seems totally reasonable and superior to what seems to be the industry standard."

N.V.

New York, NY

"I can’t recommend Carla and the DateSpot team enough. Their pool of candidates is impressive — deep and high-quality. Carla is passionate, innovative, methodical, and a pleasure to work with. She quickly understood exactly what I was looking for and recommended several high-caliber profiles in no time. I am now dating someone they introduced me to, and things are looking very promising!"

I.S.

San Francisco, CA

“I can’t say enough wonderful things about Carla! I’ve known her for several years and am always impressed by her poise, knowledge, compassion, eye for detail, connections, and kind heart. DateSpot is a fantastic community of exceptional professionals looking for that special someone. If you’re looking for love, Carla can help. She has an extensive reach and is well respected amongst her peers. She truly wants people to find their partner as well as to grow throughout their journey. Thank you Carla!”

K.M.

Los Angeles, CA

"Well, we're happily married and expecting a daughter. I think that's about as much of a ringing endorsement as one can possibly give. Carla clearly rocks."

Z.D.

San Francisco, CA

"It was a breath of fresh air speaking with you. You are a good egg and a hard worker! You're really changing the dating world for the better."

M.A.

Belmar, NJ

"Carla took the time to genuinely know me as a friend prior to setting me up with someone. Luckily, soon after, the first match she sent me was a success! I am now happily married to the love of my life and couldn’t thank her enough. She officiated our wedding, and will stay a lifelong friend."

V.S.

San Francisco, CA

"I haven't seen anything like DateSpot. It's such a cool idea. The questions they ask are interesting and I can tell they put a lot of thought into how they match people."

K.A.

Tashkent, UZ

"I cannot recommend Carla highly enough as a matchmaker. I've seen a couple other services advertised online and gone on dates with their clients, and I can say with confidence that the quality of the service Carla provides is in a league far and away above the others. I felt like she not only took a great deal of care to understand me, what I'm looking for, and why -- both in the beginning and ongoing -- but also that she is insightful and talented in actually achieving that understanding."

D.S.

San Francisco, CA

“It’s been a pleasure working with Carla and DateSpot! Carla is professional, personable and genuinely cares about finding her clients their forever person. She has a way of making her clients feel at ease and open up about what they’re really looking for in a relationship. Her creativity and use of technology also sets her apart from other matchmakers."

L.P.

Corde Madera, CA

"My goodness, you deliver dreams... and quickly! These are all amazing people. And, none of whom I would usually see on the mainstream dating apps."

P.B.

Berkeley, CA

“The Matchmaker To The Matchmakers”

We want the best for you and would like you to benefit from our experience working with hundreds of matchmaking companies and our intimate knowledge of the industry. If we think you'd be better suited to work with another matchmaking company, we're happy to refer you at any point.